What Is The Point
Of A Relationship
is the point of a relationship, you may ask? The whole point of a relationship between two people is to
connect with one another on as many levels as possible, to join together and share their life experiences. This
requires openness, willingness and trust and love can facilitate these
way, the book '1000 Questions
For Couples' pictured here, is a wonderful place
to start the process of true connection with your partner and discovering what the point of a relationship
is for yourself.
When we feel that we truly love someone we often find it much
easier to trust that person with many different areas of ourselves, our lives.
We can feel safe to reveal certain aspects of ourselves to our
partner, which we may have kept hidden from others for all of our lives so far, therefore a relationship can
facilitate the freeing of ourselves through the love for and of another.
Who should we be asking 'what is the point of a relationship?'
Ourselves and each other would be a good starting point, at least then each partner would know what is expected of
them and whether they are capable of delivering.
There is a certain expectation that our partner will find it easier
to accept our so-called 'failings' than would anyone else, we also trust that they would never use these
revelations against us in any way. This then helps us accept ourselves more and facilitates us growing into more
'whole' human beings.
If we can accommodate each other on a continual basis, we can
gradually incorporate the new information into our relationship and our love and respect for each other and
ourselves will increase enormously. So, what is the point of a relationship? Well, opening up to and being
accepting of each other is definitely a huge part of it.
people are not consciously aware that this dynamic is present, in other words it is happening but they aren't
thinking about it, which can work out fine when love and respect are present in and for each person most of the
time. A breakdown in this dynamic can cause a huge rift leaving us wondering
"what is the
point of a relationship if it's going to be like this?". This in turn can lead us to
experience feelings of alienation from each other and the loss of the mutual bond which is so
necessary for a successful relationship.
This often occurs when one partner is having a personal inner
problem, which may have been stimulated by a relationship situation. Something new for instance may be required of
them. This could be something a seemingly small as hosting a dinner party for your husband's boss, or as seemingly
large as having to come to terms with the fact that you will be becoming a father much earlier that you
Stressful situations like these may leave us asking ourselves 'what is the point of a
relationship?', if it is going to be this difficult do I really want
At this crucial time you may suddenly feel overwhelmed and
although you may wish to be able to rise to the occasion perhaps for your partners sake, another part of you may
want the new 'prospect' to simply disappear.
fear has arisen, there will be a necessary shift in perspective and attitude to accommodate the new emotion.
At this point if any pressure is perceived as coming from your partner (even if it is actually you who is putting
pressure on yourself) the love and trust between you both can easily be eroded. At this point the question "what is
the point of a relationship" can easily turn into a statement like "there's no point to a relationship it just
brings struggle and pain".
It is very necessary at this point to be able to join together
as partners and face the new challenge undivided. Because you do love and trust in one another you can then both
see that the 'problem' does not belong to just one of you as it has the power to affect your whole
Together you have a much greater chance of finding the root
cause of the issue which is creating the negative feelings (fear, etc.) and reaching a mutually beneficial and
what is the point of a relationship really?
If we seriously take on board that the point of a relationship
between two people is to connect with each other on as many different levels as possible, it is easier to see how
we can create, enjoy and sustain a wonderful and loving partnership as we will be marrying-up and sharing both our
inner and outer life experiences in a relaxed and open way.
With this in mind it is easy to see how the question 'what is the point of a
relationship' becomes entirely irrelevant because we will be enjoying a truly fulfilling experience with
someone we love.