The  Death  Of  Your  Love - Life 

 The three top influencers of the certain death of your love-life are:-

1)

For women - it is being overly critical of your man. No matter what the particular issues are, criticism will kill his passion for you. Why? Simply because when you criticise him he feels much less of a man, therefore he doesn't feel that he is 'fit' for the role of' lover' in your eyes. Your husband will feel that you perceive him as less of a man because you are drawing attention to his deficits.

Nagging also comes under the 'criticism' heading. Whenever you nag him to do something or about the fact that he hasn't done something, again you are pressing the 'less than a man' button. Your man will subsequently be less passionately attracted to you, which will dampen his sexual appetite - after all, imagine if you became critical of his love-making skills, that could be too devastating for him to contemplate!

Your husband is not necessarily conscious of this psychological reaction, but it is now universally accepted that this is the existing dynamic when women criticise or nag their men, this is because what a man really thrives on is the admiration of his woman and criticism is the exact opposite.

Your husband needs your admiration to free him up to express his masculinity in a natural and loving way, therefore you need to find in him as many admirable qualities as possible. Praise is always more readily accepted than criticism.

Be authentic, remember all the things you admired about your man when you were first in love with him, they are probably still there but have become covered up by the stresses and strains of regular life.

For men - taking for granted the things your wife does for you, treating her kindness as a given - expecting her to behave in a certain way as part of her 'role'.

Yes, in general women are more predisposed to care for people, this often includes cooking meals, making sure there are sufficient clean clothes and the home is a pleasant place to come back to and in which to spend time relaxing.

Your wife will do all these things because she wants you to feel appreciated and loved, but really it is the woman herself that needs these feeling met more than you. Just because your woman may be extremely accomplished at performing these activities, it by no means indicates that it involves no effort.

For a woman love is usually the driving force here and although she doesn't extend herself for praise, your obvious appreciation tells her that you love her and what she does for you. Wearing the shirt she has lovingly ironed for you is no indication to her that you appreciate her efforts - you actually have to tell her!

Not saying 'thank you' often enough or not expressing your thanks in clear and obvious ways will definitely flatten any passionate feelings your woman may have for you. Why? Literally because women thrive on appreciation just as men thrive on admiration.

Being appreciated by her man makes a woman feel noticed and desired. Passion easily rises to the surface in this environment as being noticed by a man who appreciates her qualities makes a woman feel sexy and desirable.

As with men, women are not necessary aware that this dynamic is present. What they will however be conscious of, is feeling unimportant and unattractive to their husbands which equates to their husband not caring about them anymore.

You see, when a man takes his woman for granted and a woman criticises her man, it is hard for either one to see why they are even together, never mind enjoying a passionate and fulfilling love life!

Now that you know about these 'subliminal' interactions, you have some of the tools you need to inject desire and passion back into your lives, with a little effort and dedication you will be happily surprised by the outcome.

2)

For both men and women not paying enough attention to your appearance can have a definite negative impact on your love life. I know you may think this vain, but it has been shown to be a really important aspect of continued desirability within a relationship.

For instance, when a man comes home to his wife and she is dressed in baggy-kneed crumpled trousers and a washed-out 'comfy' top it is hardly going to inspire sexual attraction and passion in him. She may well have the home beautifully groomed and a nourishing, tasty meal ready for him but that will do little to light the coals of his desire.

Being well groomed in your husband's company tells him that you want his attention and that he is worthy of your efforts. It shows him that you are sexually and sensually attracted to him which stimulates his passion.

A woman will not be sexually stimulated by her husband if he comes home after a hard day, throws himself on the sofa in his work-worn clothes, picks up a newspaper and waits for his meal to arrive. He is not going to be looking or smelling his best at this stage and his wife is more likely to criticise his behaviour, which as I have mentioned only makes matters worse. They are more likely to end up in a heated argument than a warm and passionate embrace!

So ladies, have an old-sweats day if you wish but just make certain to step it up a few gears before your man arrives. This way his first impression of you will be one of pleasure and approval which are precursors to attraction and passion.

And guys, just head straight for the bathroom, have a really quick wash and change of clothes - it only takes 5 minutes but the resulting attention from your woman will be well worth your while!

3)

Spending too much of your leisure time away from each other, either inside or outside the home will most certainly negatively impact your sex life and relationship.

 The woman with interest or 'duties' that keep her busy late into the evening, maybe after a full day at work or raising small children in the home, is only fit for bed by the time she calls it a day. She can get so worn out that she is only looking forward to a good night's sleep.

No thoughts of passion will enter her mind, or if they do she will be inclined to worry that she will get even less sleep, so sex becomes something to avoid.

Even a woman who is not raising children but has many hobbies and interests can unwittingly make herself too busy to have a healthy, active sex-life. Often she will not notice the decline of her sex-life until it is almost too late.

Men also fall into the trap of filling their time with activities that don't include their partners. We've all heard of golfing, fishing and football 'widows'. Because this is a common occurrence it is taken for granted that it is normal healthy behaviour.

O.k.., These men are probably not really considering why they married their partners in the first place. Sharing your life means just that - sharing time and experiences together, building mutual love and respect, bonding. Of course the inconsiderate behaviour becomes habitual and almost goes unnoticed or unchallenged.

Some couples crash out in front of the television almost every evening and eventually drag themselves off to bed and hopefully a good night's sleep. This behaviour is certainly sealing the fate of their sex life and intimacy.

When you and your partner spend enough time in close proximity, it allows your body to release chemicals which act as attractors. It is usually at this point that a couple will spontaneously start to flirt with each other, increasing their sensuality and passion and triggering sexual feelings. So you can see why it is important not to live your married life in too separate a way.

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